CC16 Workshop 04 – Trauma and Intimacy – How Relationships Hurt and Heal – Terry Real, LICSW

Description:

Clinical experience has been confirmed by research. Although we can teach partners all kinds of skills, when there is emotional flooding or triggering, those skills can be lost. Why? Because we’re no longer our adult selves. The thinking brain has stopped functioning and The limbic system has taken control. An inner child has taken control of the wheel. This workshop introduces a model of working with the traumatized parts of the partners we treat by empowering individuals to come into conscious relationship with those parts—loving, understanding, and They can be contained. We can only mature when we address our immature inner children and These issues should not be forced on our partners. A new model of trauma will be presented that includes both shame and guilt. and grandiosity, intrusion and abandonment—and These can have a significant impact on the couple’s interactions. Demonstrations, discussion, and demonstrations are all possible. and video excerpt, participants will learn how to empower partners in couples to “detach from outcome,” deal with disappointment, let go of, “relentless hope,” and take care of their inner wounded or adaptive children. Finally, we will touch upon the couples therapist’s own differentiation—how we must use in the therapy, the same capacities we develop in our clients.

Educational Objectives

1. Introduce and detail the idea of “mutual triggering,”—how childhood trauma fuels repetitive, problematic couple’s dynamics.
2. Distinguish two different types of inner children—the wounded and The adapted child.
3. Please describe specific techniques to empower the adult side of your partner to handle trauma triggers and Shift the repetitive and interactive pattern. 

*Sessions may be edited for content and to preserve confidentiality*